becoming sandy
Sharing what I am learning, unlearning and relearning as I navigate my way through a midlife unraveling and awakening, becoming the woman I was meant to be all along.
A couple of months ago, on March 23, 2022 our family story changed forever. Together, Rafael and I decided that it was best that we separate and pursue divorce. There is a perceived shame cast upon couples as their partnerships dissolve, and people keep quiet about divorce for a variety of reasons. I believe that the masking of these situations continues to perpetuate the shame cycle surrounding the ending of relationships, and I refuse to participate. I refuse to accept shame for the dissolution of our marriage.
Rafael and I both contributed to the good and the bad throughout our 21 years of marriage, and I intend to treasure ALL of the positive experiences, family memories, and accomplishments most especially our 4 amazing children, Sarah, Gabriel, Rachel and Jacob. I resolve to remember the things that I love and admire about Rafael and plan to continue fostering a friendship with him so that we may co-parent our children well and adapt to this new version of family. I will redeem the lesser experiences by learning from them and healing the emotional wounds incurred. I'm hopeful that Rafael feels the same. There is no reason for either of us to feel embarrassed nor experience shame. We both fought like hell for our marriage, each other and our family every day until we just couldn’t fight anymore.
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About the AuthorSandy is a parent educator, enneagram aficionado, conscious parenting advocate, self trained and proclaimed home chef, and mother of 4 amazing kids. Archives
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